We are a fractured, fragmented and dysfunctional humanity in many ways. We are also an incredibly good, compassionate and creative species. We oscillate between these. Our global history bears witness to this. Most of us don’t intend to cause harm, but we do. Some of us have been twisted into narcissism by destructive formative experiences. We are all stunted in our emotional and moral development. Our evolutionary brains and emotional systems are prone to reactivity and problematic dis-regulation, especially after trauma or childhood attachment wounds.
We also project our pain onto others because our fragile ego identities can’t bear guilt and shame. We have been trained by our societies to be shame prone so that we conform and obey. But we also have divinity hidden behind these false selves that we buried out of existence in an ancient existence. Because our true selves are not these egoic identities (whom we believe we are) the divine impulse within us propel us towards conscious evolution.
Who we truly are is not these identities (including Donald Trump, Boris Johnson and Vladimir Putin). We are not our false identities. Our true nature wants to transform us. Whilst we continue to be drawn into polarisation, hatreds, projections and unforgiveness, we perpetuate our own and others suffering.
I will try not judge the lives of politicians, royals, co-workers or celebrities. Why? Because when I judge these, I judge myself. We are all one. I am responsible for the transformation of my shadow. The hurt I have caused to others in the past and the micro aggression that I create now, are my responsibility to heal. Whilst I fixate on the moral failure of others and project my own guilt onto them, I keep this disordered world from healing.
People are capable of messing up, causing pain and thus leave suffering behind them. Jesus warned us not to judge for very good reasons. Judgement perpetuates suffering and keeps us locked into this dualistic world. We have all hurt people and caused harm. Whilst we avoid healing ourselves by looking at the sins of others, we continue to suffer. Be merciful as we desire mercy. You and I are not the same person we were 30 years ago.