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Francis: An Icon of True Humanity
St Francis’ lasting legacy was to teach humanity the sacred lessons of unconditional and boundless love. He especially taught love through his humble service to the vulnerable peoples in his own time who were held in contempt by the powerful and comfortable. He demonstrated the indestructible power of love, which overcomes our primal egoic thoughts of fear and separation, when he conquered his revulsion and fear of leprosy, kissing and embracing a leper. He then dedicated his life to the service of this most vulnerable, outcast and reviled community of his age. His freedom to undertake this service of love so powerfully was inextricably linked to his detachment from worrying about what others thought about him. This was an incredible freedom.
Francis radical non attachment to material possessions of the world was an antidote against the manipulation and control agenda of the world expressed in the cultural norms of his society. He was an advanced being of divinity and light who came into the world to change the course of the world for centuries beyond his own age. He is especially relevant to the world of today which sits on a dangerous precipice. This is why Francis appeals to people’s of all spiritual traditions and none. His message is that of non-partisan love. He demonstrated to us all how the living Christ present in all living beings, can be activated and actualised in a single lifetime.
Francis exuded light. He was consciously united with Eternal Light and this light shone on all whom he encountered. This Divine Light dwells within each one of us, and which is our deepest true self (but which is dormant in most of us). He was a mystic, healer, teacher, Bodhisattva and a dear father to the despised and disposable of his society. Francis is an icon of our own journey towards illumination. He is a pointer to our spiritual awakening. When we heal from our internal fear, judgment, harshness and violent self-criticism and embrace simplicity of heart we strip away the ego and superego, and fear-based defences such as cynicism, pessimism, chauvinism and narcissism. When we become light we warm and illuminate the lives of others. Francis can be a dear companion to us on the journey, gently helping us to deconstruct the unreal to reveal the real. Allow him to draw close to you.
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The Gift of Mindfulness for You
Mindfulness is a form of meditative practice which focuses upon our mind and attention. In Mindfulness we notice bodily experiences, such as our breathing, sensation, and our energy. We notice external things such as sounds near to us, smells, taste and touch. Mindfulness draws upon a knowledge base of cognitive behavioural psychology, neuroscience, and Buddhist philosophy and psychology
Mindfulness draws our attention to the fluctuating nature of the mind with its many thoughts, ideas and images that flit across our awareness. In mindfulness we notice thoughts, perceptions, feelings, reactions and emotions but we do not identify with them as the self, but recognise them just for what they are; hectic intrapsychic activity. The hopeful fruits of mindfulness for our lives through our focus on the here and now, in the present moment, is to help us to be more aware generally in our lives of the beautiful things we might miss in the morass of our many thoughts, e.g., the beauty of a sunset or sunrise; the scents of nature, or the delicious taste of something we are eating or drinking. The busyness of our mind and its many thoughts and distractions can draw us away from joy and peacefulness, right here and right now.
Busy and habitual thinking can make us lose contact with our bodily sensations. which are an important anchoring in life in the present moment. Through noticing our senses such as vision, hearing, olfactory senses, taste and touch, we can enjoy our senses more profoundly.
There are nine attitudes of mindfulness based upon Jon Kabat Zinn’s original 7 attitudes of mindfulness: beginners mind; non-judgement; trust; letting go; non-striving; acceptance; patience; gratitude and generosity.
Beginner’s mind – witnessing the present moment with the mind and eyes of a beginner. In terms of mindfulness this might be recognizing the flow of thoughts that pass through our mind, the judgements that arise within us or our conditioned reactions, in relation to particular phenomena. Through noticing these mental and somatic reactions, we can choose not to give them central stage in formulating our perspective on our experience. The beginners mind might potentially make room for something new that might arise from our creativity; allowing ourselves to be surprised by this innate creativity. For example, if I bring a beginner’s mind to my role in my job, I might see ways of developing the role emerging with a fresh and creative perspective rather than using a mind conditioned by past, experiences and narratives which might limit my vision. This happened recently in some interfaith work I undertook as a chaplain in the hospice where I work. I outreached to the local Islamic community the week during the UK riots (August 2024) and came to this meeting and encounter with empty hands and an open heart, to listen, to try to understand and to allow this listening to enrich the conversation.
Non-judgement – in terms of mindfulness this is attempting to cultivate a mind that can look at a phenomenon or phenomena without being overly influenced by our mental or social conditioning. A mind which is non possessive, not driven by one interpretation or set of beliefs, nor driven by a desired outcome, and is willing to tolerate uncertainty, and be open to multiple possibilities, can approach life in creative ways and from a more compassionate position.
Trust – In terms of mindfulness let’s remember, that when we sit in a chair, we don’t anticipate that the chair will collapse under us; when we walk on the pavement we trust that the ground under our feet will not suddenly give way and cause us to fall into a chasm. We trust that our heart will beat and our lungs will breathe. The quality of trust in terms of mindfulness practice is about cultivating a mindful sense of our ability to trust ourselves and life in a way that is similar to how we trust the chair or the ground. This trust is not done naively (e.g., if we noticed the chair had large cracks in the legs we wouldn’t sit down on it). It is not undertaken by refusing to listen to our natural fight, flight or freeze evolutionary capacities for detecting risk or danger and responding to it (e.g., not walking in proximity to an angry and vicious dog). Trust, however is attempted by witnessing, but not identifying with our conditioned memories, thoughts, feelings and responses from the past to our experience of witnessing. For example, if you have been let down in previous romantic relationships, this does not mean you can’t ever trust romantic relationships, but through mindfulness you can learn to trust the wisdom within you to help you to discern what can help you with trusting people with wisdom rather than falling prey to strategies of control. Trust is about becoming more in-tune with our creativity and intuition, which could be described as our hearts ability to wisely guide our mind through discernment.
Letting-go – Mindfulness can help us to detach from ego driven over management of aspects of our lives (e.g., relationships, work, health, etc.,) in which we might have come to believe requires our absolute and dedicated control. This desire to control can often arise from previous adverse experiences in our lives such as a betrayal, abuse, a career loss, a divorce, a bereavement, and many other life events. The desire to control is understandable and definitely calls for mindful compassion; but controlling strategies are not something we want to determine our decisions or behaviour, now.
Non-striving: In terms of mindfulness, non-striving describes how we can become aware of our capacity to do life in terms of achieving, acquiring, attaining, succeeding, etc., Non striving invites us into the ground of being rather than doing (striving). Mindful non striving can create space for making room for deeper wisdom to arise by our slowing down and stopping. This can enhance our doing because it can potentially release our creativity, wisdom and deeper knowledge. I have heard it said that geniuses very often had their eureka moments, not in the laboratory but whilst in the shower or enjoying a cup of tea.
Acceptance – with respect to the mindfulness of acceptance this refers to a shift in perception from being overwhelmed by our resistance to what is happening in our lives, and gently allowing ourselves to accept that an issue for what it is, right now. Acceptance is not passive relinquishment of responsibility or action. If I needed to prepare myself for demanding and difficult experiences, a position of acceptance could help me to allow my mind to calm, and for my resilience, stamina and coping skills to come online.
Patience – in terms of mindfulness, acceptance and non-striving are strongly linked to patience. Cultivating mindful patience can consist of accepting the reality of something in a given moment (e.g., a health, social or financial problem) and putting a pause on doing something immediately, and just allowing the issue to be for a while. Sometimes, (not always) remaining calm when events may seem to be in flux, and delaying wanting to react or act (i.e., immediately engaging with problem solving) can help me to be less stressed and overwhelmed (which might undermine my effectiveness needed with managing a phenomenon) possibly allowing more helpful perspectives to arise from wisdom.
Gratitude – in terms of mindfulness, whatever problems we face in life, if the mind with which we are going to face these problems is dominated with thoughts of complaining and dissatisfaction, this will impact on our experience of these problems. These negative responses can ruin our potential for peacefulness and happiness. Gratitude in comparison is a mind-set that looks upon our lives in terms of what is good, helpful and fulfilling in our lives, which cultivates peace and balance. The mind when honed upon what is wrong, tends to exclude from our mind what is good and beautiful. There is psychological and neuroscientific research into the benefits of cultivating gratitude for our lives which suggests many therapeutic benefits from cultivating gratitude such as peace of mind, greater stress reduction, increasing self-esteem, increased personal happiness, positive mind states and medical benefits such as lower blood pressure, better sleep, stronger immune system, etc. The research suggests positive neuroplasticity in terms of our brain wiring for happiness.
Generosity – in terms of mindfulness, generosity and compassion belong together in the same domain. Cultivating a generous, giving heart towards others, can make us experience ourselves in a positive and meaningful way. The golden rule from most religions and philosophies of life, is do unto to others as you would want to be done to you. What we do to others affect how we perceive ourselves. Our actions of generosity help define our attitudes towards ourselves and others. Grasping and over-attachment to impermanent things that will disintegrate are strongly linked to craving. Grasping can only be satisfied by the constancy of getting things and holding on to them. Generosity in contrast, is a quality of being that is lasting and takes joy in the happiness and fulfilment of others.
Embodiment of mindfulness is the goal of practice.
Embodiment is the result of embedding mindfulness practice into the very fabric of our lived existence and experience. Repetition of mindfulness practice is key. It must permeate every aspect of our lives, with our becoming a more mindful person. It is not the supplanting the person I am with a different identity. It is our leaning close to our deepest true self underpinned with the qualities of patience, compassion, cooperation and acceptance. Being mindful with humility, is what enables us to become authentic mindful practitioners, because we are in contact with who we truly are at the deepest level of our being. Professor Paul Gilbert identifies these deep qualities of being as emerging from our evolutionary development for survival which has helped humanity to survive as a species, especially through cultivating capacities for caring, attachment, cooperation, and extending warmth and protection to the vulnerable, especially children. This deep reservoir of our consciousness is capable of compassion, service, creativity, innovation and many other positive qualities of being. Not perfect, but imperfectly perfect.
The psychological wisdom drawn upon from ancient Buddhism to inform mindfulness practice are multi-form: (1) recognising the nature of suffering and the causes of suffering; (2) recognising there is a way to end suffering and the path that leads to the end of suffering; (3) the importance of mindful detachment; acceptance of the reality of the present moment; observing the nature of the mind and emotions and understanding how the mind can be complex and tricky, etc. (4) practices such as loving kindness meditation and the cultivation of warm heartedness. All of these inform the nine attitudes of mindfulness: non-judging, patience, the beginner’s mind, trust, non-striving, acceptance, gratitude, generosity, and letting go.
Compassion And Self Compassion

Trauma and Compassion ~ Gabor Mate
Originally written for the Lynn News, Thought for the Day
Emancipating divinity from patriarchy through the heart ~ Rev Brendan Mooney OEC
I am reading a book called Setting God Free by Fr Sean O’Laoire, an Irish Catholic priest who is spiritual director to a community of lay people in California called Companions on the Journey. He is a beautiful soul; a radical, imaginative, intelligent and compassionate man who is deeply respected by many people across many spiritual traditions.
Sean began his spiritual journey as a child in County Cork, Ireland, and was deeply influenced by his kind hearted Catholic grandmother whom he describes as a genuine mystic who lived comfortably between this world and the divine realm. His grandfather was a druid who was deeply embedded in the mysticism of his tradition. The influence of two deeply spiritual grandparents in his early life and living in a Gaelic speaking community, immersed him in the earthiness of Celtic Spirituality.
In the 1960s Sean studied for the Roman Catholic priesthood. His studies consisted of pure mathematics and physics followed by several years of academic philosophy, scripture and theology. He spent many years working in Africa as a priest after his ordination. During his time in Africa he became knowledgeable of the local ancient wisdom and spiritual traditions of the people whom he served. He later went to the United State where he studied for a PhD in Transpersonal Psychology and became a clinical psychologist. His study of mathematics, theology, philosophy, spirituality, transpersonal psychology and many other disciplines, informs his ongoing spiritual inquiry and development. His aim is to contribute to the development of a spirituality that is enriching and transformative to the evolution of global human consciousness.
Sean has lost favor with the institutional Roman Catholic Church, and so now is ministering independently from the institutional Church. He has a very broad and encompassing cosmology which seeks to free people from unwholesome, oppressive and discriminatory anthropomorphisms of God that create separation and division. Sean in his book, Setting God Free talks about an experience whilst ministering at a Catholic parish in Palo Alto, California in the 1980s, which deeply influenced his decision to carefully examine and retool his religious cosmology. He had a close friend, a Jewish woman called Arlen who decided to bring her mother to Mass to meet Sean in person. Arlen’s mother was a survivor of the Holocaust and had lost many family members in an Easter Pogrom. The Gospel of the day at the Mass attended by Arlen and her mother caused him to feel profound discomfort. It was the story from John’s Gospel of Pilate absolving himself of the blood of Jesus, and in which John records the “Jews” as saying, “His blood be upon us and upon our children”. The ramifications of this anti-Semitic passage, and how it was used by the post Constantinian Church to orchestrate persecutions against the Jewish people, landed deeply with him. This was a turning point in Sean’s spiritual journey that changed everything. He believes that creating a god in our own image, rather than seeking the God in whose image we are made, is something that needs to change if God is to mean anything purposeful for human conscious evolution.
Sean’s book spoke deeply to me about how religion, when it becomes self-referential, institutionalized and concerned with its own image, becomes something that doesn’t serve humanity’s journey of conscious evolution. I believe that this evolution is importantly something that must be rooted in the human heart, in a spaciousness of deep compassion, love and service to others. Sean O’Laoire makes a very important observation:
“God is nothing like the religion has made out to be –especially the jealous, irascible, patriarchal, genocidal god of the world’s greatest monotheistic religions”
In the theistic religious traditions throughout history, divinity has been the object of egoic patriarchal projections creating a caricature of God. These traditions have often been unfriendly towards the lives, liberties and bodies of both women and children. Within the Christian Church patriarchally informed projections about God have created an ecclesiology that bolsters systemic clerical power and privilege over others. It has privileged a patriarchal ecclesiology over and above an organic ecclesiology that draws upon the diverse gifts, wisdom, experience and insights of the whole people of God. The term people of God only became a meaningful concept within the Catholic Church in the 1960s during the Second Vatican Council.
The notion of God as the divine feminine (i.e., the goddess or divine mother) has been ignored by institutionalized theistic religion in favour of a muscular, militaria, patriarchal God who most often sides with male clerical, authoritarian, and even, military, power. Even now, in these days of liberation, feminist, black liberation and creation centred theologies, the idea of God as a tender, strong and protective mother – akin to the Buddhist image of the compassionate and protective Tara emancipating her children from suffering oppression and fear – is rarely a reference point for theology or liturgy. Sophia, as feminine divine wisdom, is also an underrepresented image of divinity in ecclesiastical language. Most often the notion of a male god who speaks through a patriarchal system of authority, and who is exclusively called, Father, is the most privileged image of the divine.
I would suggest that each one of us would do well to take governance over our own personal cosmology, ecclesiology and spirituality. Be discerning of ecclesiastical patriarchs, grandiose gurus, authoritative teachers and dynamic evangelists who claim that their way is the best way. There is one divine ocean that flows into many wells. You and I are one of those wells. The true teacher is within you. Good spiritual teachers will always point you towards your inner teacher. Your mind when immersed in the tender place of your heart, quietly listening for divine wisdom, is a good space to discern for the whisperings of divinity.
Namaste brothers and sisters
References:
Setting God Free: Moving Beyond the Caricature We’ve Created in Our Own Image, 2021, by Sean O’Laoire, Apocryphille Press US.
Interview by Evan McDermod of Fr Sean O’Laoire, Setting God Free, YouTube, December 2022 Seán ÓLaoire – Setting God Free (Podcast Interview) – YouTube
The Way of Grace: The Transforming Power of Ego Relaxation – 1 Nov. 2018 by Miranda Macpherson, Sounds True Press
New Seeds of Contemplation by Thomas Merton, New Directions Paperbook, 1091) Paperback – Illustrated, 13 Nov. 2007